Have you ever felt like you’re completely overwhelmed with all your responsibilities in life? Maybe you’re trying to keep your house clean, take care of yourself, work, have a social life, and go to school all at the same time. Recently I’ve been struggling with this. Between working full time, taking care of a home, myself, spending time with my husband, blogging, etc., I’ve started to feel completely overwhelmed. By overloading myself I’ve started to lose interest in things that I normally enjoy, I’ve ended up just putting everything on the backburner because I feel as if it’s too much work. Which in turn stresses me out because I feel like I’m not doing what I should be doing. It’s a vicious cycle and I’ve finally gotten fed up! I put together a list of a few things I’ve been doing to help me get back on track and feel a little more like myself.
Make a schedule, but don’t kill yourself following it
This may sound like a no-brainer, but I can’t stress the importance of this! It’s easy to get overwhelmed when you have a list a mile long of tasks that need to be completed. Making a schedule will help to break it all down so its easier to handle.
I like to make a schedule for cleaning, our pets and for the blog. I sort of tie it all together so it creates one detailed schedule. In the past if I didn’t get something on my schedule done I would be pretty hard on myself and end up feeling guilty or like a failure. Which as you might imagine could happen a lot because life is crazy and sometimes you gotta change up your plans!
So, being easier on myself is something I’ve been really working on, which is something I’ll get more into in the next point.
Don’t beat yourself up
Nobody is perfect. Like I mentioned earlier, I can be very hard on myself when I don’t complete all the tasks I want to be finished in time. Even if I tackle a good chunk of my to-do list, I’m still hard on myself for not finishing the rest. Which I know is unrealistic!
Recently I’ve gotten fed up with the negative side of myself and I decided no more! It’s just too exhausting to keep having this internal struggle about constantly being perfect and I finally just realized that if I let that continue for the rest of my life I’ll be miserable. So, I’ve been making a concerted effort to not berate myself. It’s so ingrained at this point that I don’t always realize when I’m doing it but if I do catch myself doing it, I immediately stop. Even if I have to change my train of thought or give myself a pep talk, I just try to keep the positive voice on and the negative voice turned off.
There will always be another task
This is sort of a follow-up to the previous point, but a good thing to keep in mind is that you will always have more to do. Whether it’s chores, a workout, a social engagement, whatever it is there’s always something else. Just be nice to yourself and instead of focusing on the things you haven’t done, focus on the things you have done. You got one load of laundry done? Great! That’s one less load to do! Remember, life is a marathon not a sprint so you need to pace yourself.
Take care of your health
I’m one of those stubborn people who doesn’t like to take medicine, I don’t like to go to the doctor, I don’t like to have to get shots so, I usually have a very hard time going to doctor or dentist appointments. Like to the point where I will just pretend everything is fine and just put it off even if I’m in pain or sick until my husband finally just forces me to go. Which I know is bad which is why I’ve been trying to work on that.
I’ve come to the realization that (as obvious as it may seem) to live a long and healthy life I have to stop procrastinating or avoiding taking care of myself. It may be a pain in the butt to deal with at the time but in the long run there’s a huge payoff!
Speaking of procrastinating
Stop it! It doesn’t make the problem or task disappear it just accumulates more for you to do. Do what you need to do as soon as you can and it will save you A LOT of time and stress.
Stop making excuses and take some of that weight off your shoulders! Trust me, you’ll feel better after.
Stop worrying about everything
I am a worrier. I will worry about something that hasn’t even happened yet and then I’ll worry about how much I’m worrying. It’s a nasty cycle and I’ve been working on worrying less. I’ve come to the conclusion that worrying has zero benefits. It doesn’t prepare you any better, it doesn’t make you happy, and it doesn’t make whatever you’re worrying about any more pleasant.
I’ve had to make peace with the fact that I’ll always be a worrier, but I found that I can minimize the worry by preparation and diversions. If I start to worry about something (whether it’s guaranteed to happen or not) I think about what I can do to prepare. I think about the scenario and how I will deal with the outcome. This usually helps ease my fears quite a bit once I have a plan of action.
And if the worry persists, as it tends to do, I’ve been immediately changing my train of thought to something more positive. I’ve found that by doing this my mind has become more open to focusing on positive thoughts automatically and sort of letting the worrying thoughts go.
Focus on the positive, be nice to yourself, and don’t put off the important stuff!
I’ve been wanting to write a post like this for some time now. It can sometimes be a struggle to take care of yourself and your happiness with all the responsibilities life tends to throw at you. I hope these tips can help you to live your very best life!
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